My 12 yr old son is very upset that I'm naming my son due in June Benjamin Elijah, how should I deal with it?

My 12 year old says that because his name is Elijah Benjamin I should pick another name for the baby, what do you think?

My 12 yr old son is very upset that I'm naming my son due in June Benjamin Elijah, how should I deal with it?
SuperKelly,


I think you should just stick with Tobias as you originally planned . . .
Reply:I realise that is your right, but I can see why he would be upset, he will be supplanted by a small baby taking over HIS mum, HIS toys, and now HIS names, there is no logic in this reasoning, but your big boy is still in need of reassurance, he feels that he will no longer mean so much to you as the baby.


I would pick other names for the baby, and get your older boy to help you pick out the best. There must be family names that also deserve the honour of being picked for this child.
Reply:I think you probably should think about another name. Your older son may feel as though you are taking away something that is special to him, his individuality i.e. his name. Although the names are reversed it is still too similar. I think you should give your new baby the same individuality that you gave your first son . Good luck.
Reply:I agree - these names are his and his alone. It is bad enough (in his view) that he will be 'losing' his mama to a new baby, but to lose his identity too? You might ask him to help choose new and very different name for the baby and involve him as much as possible - ensuring that he knows he is and will always be your number one baby.
Reply:uh- i dont eventhink your being serious but if you are, look at it this way. when a mother picks a name for her child, it supposed to be special and just for them. something you cam eup with to help make them an individual. and for youto just switch the name up and us eit on another child i would think really hurst him and makes him feel less special.


find anothe rname- no body is that uncreative.


good luck and congrats
Reply:Honestly, I agree with him. It's rather insensitive to name the new baby just the opposite of your 12 year old. Pick something creative and different, so the boys can each have their own seperate identity.
Reply:My aunt wanted to call her baby Rhonda but her son (he was 8? at the time) said "that's a dumb stupid name". So she named her Katherine. I can't imagine her being called Rhonda.





If it upsets your son that much ask yourself how important it really is to you?
Reply:I do think you should try to come up with another name.


Its your sons identity and its his name in a different order.


And your son is at a crucial age.


Please consider that.
Reply:I think you should pick a new name for the sake of your 12 year old, it's not fair he has to share his name, that's who he is.
Reply:I can totally see his point. You're basically just reversing his name, and giving it to his sibling. That certainly doesn't convey the message of them being unique and special. Why are you so hooked on the same two names??
Reply:i think its a little weird and agree with your son. thats his exact name, just backwards. he wants his own identity. At lease choose a different first name. What about Ethan? That way they both start with and E.
Reply:pick another name. It may sound to him that you are replacing him by naming him that. Really dont name your son that. Your 12 year old is right. Think how he feels!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:I agree with your son. You gave HIM those names (no matter the order) and you should pick 2 new ones for the new baby. I think both of your sons will appreciate that.
Reply:Dude, your son has a right to be mad. That's way too confusing. Are those really the only two boy names you can come up with?
Reply:There's a ton of names out there. You can be more original than that!





I agree with your son.
Reply:My neighbours did that....one son is named Joshua Joseph and the other is Joseph Joshua...I wouldn't do it. It's like taking away their identities.
Reply:well, honey, he's totally right!!! that's just confusing... there are so many other nice names out there why won't you pick another name for the baby?
Reply:I actually like that, it's your baby, it's coming out of you. Your son will get over it. Don't give him his way.
Reply:I think you should pick something else. Your name is your identity. I wouldn't like it either!
Reply:I can't blame him; I would be mad too. There are way too many names to chose from. Pick another name, PLEASE!
Reply:i think you should pick another name for the baby...how confusing.